Spring is renewal and opportunities. It is a time to embrace hope and allow the season to warm and heal a broken heart. Our loved ones died one death and as survivors we have died a thousand deaths as we go over and over the whys, what ifs, etc. Believe me, when I say I know the drill well.
I want to share a bit of wisdom that others have stated before me and I share with you. This is nothing profound just from the heart and a tidbit picked up at a Weight Watcher Meeting: “If you do what you always do, you get what you always got.” This translates to if we continue to dwell on the past, make ourselves and others around us miserable, dwell on the death rather than the life and joy our loved ones brought us then we are diminishing and devaluing their lives and making our own miserable.
Some wisdom other survivors have shared that has helped them.
“Our lost loved one didn’t leave to hurt us. I think they truly believed that we could handle their death easier than they could handle their life” (submitted by SallyAnn G.)
“In the midst of winter, I found within myself an invincible summer” (submitted by Dawn M.)
As we continue our healing journey know that “those who walk together, strengthen each other.” –Swahili proverb
I have bipolar II, an illness with a mortality rate of 20%. I am trying really hard not to grieve my loved ones by my death. These lines ring true to my experience of the times when I was closest to death: “Our lost loved one didn’t leave to hurt us. I think they truly believed that we could handle their death easier than they could handle their life.”
ReplyDeleteAs one who writes from the other side of the suicide experience, your blog moves me to speak for your lost loved ones, to say on their behalf how sorry they are to have hurt you, how they wish they could have spared you that pain.
Thank you for creating this blog and for your work in suicide prevention and survivor support. I am in the middle of a series in my own blog, Prozac Monologues. But I have already added you to my blog roll, and hope to write a post about it in a couple months.