Sunday, January 22, 2017
A New Year and New Changes
Happy 2017 to everyone!! Whether you are a Democrate, Republican, on no party person at all, we know there will be change! As we are well aware, change is hard and often times difficult!
Since losing your loved one many changes have taken place in you. Perhaps, you are more serious than you were before. Maybe laughter does not come as easy as it did. Your diet may have changed and you are eating things that may not be good for you or not eating at all. You may have a hard time saying goodby to people you love, for you have that constant worry you may never see them again. Feeling this way is normal and you are forever changed. Change is not all bad and maybe you were quite happy the way things were before. However, change has made it way in your life and that is a hard fact for some.
When I think back to whom I was before the death of our son, I don't recognize that person any more. I took too many things for granted. It's almost like I felt entitled to things. I didn't take my family and friends as serious as I do now. I am much more appreciative of the things people do for me and in turn want to give back.
Religion was something I turned away from. I thought how could there be a God if he let our son take his own life. Since time has its own way of allowing us to understand or at least know there are somethings we may never understand I have returned to my faith. I will never understand why babies die or children get horrible diseases but they do. Another thing I have always questioned is why some suffer with illnesses for a long time. There must be a reason even if it is unknown to me.
We will never know why our loved one choose to take his or her life. It has changed you and every relationship you have or had. Unfortunately, we cannot turn the hands of time back but move forward. Granted it's not easy...but things aren't.
I wish you a good year and hope that you find some peace in knowing your loved one has found his or hers. We only get one chance at life and I hope you will make it a good one. Yes, you can grieve, you can scream, say things you don't really mean, be hateful to others, but at the end of the day when the sky has turned dark your being doesn't have to be dark too.
It's not easy to look forward to a new day and I hope that time, love. and patience will show you the way.